Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing: A Memoir
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A MOST ANTICIPATED BOOK BY TIME, THE ASSOCIATED PRESS, GOODREADS, USA TODAY, AND MORE!

The beloved star of Friends takes us behind the scenes of the hit sitcom and his struggles with addiction in this candid, funny, and revelatory memoir that delivers a powerful message of hope and persistence.

“Hi, my name is Matthew, although you may know me by another name. My friends call me Matty. And I should be dead.”

So begins the riveting story of acclaimed actor Matthew Perry, taking us along on his journey from childhood ambition to fame to addiction and recovery in the aftermath of a life-threatening health scare. Before the frequent hospital visits and stints in rehab, there was five-year-old Matthew, who traveled from Montreal to Los Angeles, shuffling between his separated parents; fourteen-year-old Matthew, who was a nationally ranked tennis star in Canada; twenty-four-year-old Matthew, who nabbed a coveted role as a lead cast member on the talked-about pilot then called Friends Like Us. . . and so much more.

In an extraordinary story that only he could tell—and in the heartfelt, hilarious, and warmly familiar way only he could tell it—Matthew Perry lays bare the fractured family that raised him (and also left him to his own devices), the desire for recognition that drove him to fame, and the void inside him that could not be filled even by his greatest dreams coming true. But he also details the peace he’s found in sobriety and how he feels about the ubiquity of Friends, sharing stories about his castmates and other stars he met along the way. Frank, self-aware, and with his trademark humor, Perry vividly depicts his lifelong battle with addiction and what fueled it despite seemingly having it all.

Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing is an unforgettable memoir that is both intimate and eye-opening—as well as a hand extended to anyone struggling with sobriety. Unflinchingly honest, moving, and uproariously funny, this is the audiobook fans have been waiting for.

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Listening Length 8 hours and 49 minutes
Author Matthew Perry
Narrator Matthew Perry
Whispersync for Voice Ready
Audible.com Release Date November 01, 2022
Publisher Macmillan Audio
Program Type Audiobook
Version Unabridged
Language English
ASIN B09RQ4L751
Best Sellers Rank #157 in Audible Books & Originals (See Top 100 in Audible Books & Originals)
#1 in Television Performer Biographies
#1 in Television Comedy
#1 in Film & TV

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A survivor's story, bravery over suicide
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A survivor's story, bravery over suicide
In a time when we have lost so many amazing people to suicide and drug overdose (often done for the same reason) it is so powerful that Matty (as he prefers to be called) speaks up and shares his struggles. So many people think that if they just become rich or famous their troubles disappear. How anyone can continue thinking that after Robin Williams, Marilyn Monroe, Freddie Prinze, etc I will always wonder yet it continues. First of all I highly recommend everyone look up The Station by Robert Hastings. It's a poem that will really open your eyes about what is important in life, if you let it.But I digress. Matty's journey into despair and addiction is rolled out for you. He is brutally honest but with enough of that Matthew Perry charm thrown in to keep it from getting too dark/depressing. He is frank, and shares it all. I am sure that this was cathartic to him but so much more for anyone who has faced addiction, wants to understand it or just wants to glimpse what being "rich and famous" can really be like. It isn't always an easy read for several reasons. You can tell that he wrote most of it himself and shunned too much rewriting so there are some parts that jump around and even seem random but THIS is how his brain works so it makes sense and, to me, helped me to get closer to his frame of mind. Matty starts from the very beginning, his life as an infant abandoned by his father, and wonders aloud if that impacted his life later on. He jumps from recent past to distant past trying to find the links to his current thought processes.This book won't win any literary awards but it is a raw and honest book about the real man behind a character so many of us loved. Hopefully it will help addicts and family/friends of addicts, open peoples' eyes to the reality of being "rich and famous", grow understanding for Matthew Perry and his difficulties and maybe, just maybe, help someone else who is feeling alone and considering suicide despite being surrounded by so many.We don't need to lose anymore people to addiction and suicide. We need more Matthew Perry's in this world who are willing to bare their soul and fight every single day.Matty, if you ever read this. Thank you. Thank you for sharing your fight. I pray for you to stay strong and hope that you continue to find joy in every day.To anyone thinking of buying this book, do it. I am NOT a non-fiction fan. I am not an addict. I am actually not always a very understanding person. But this book is eye and heart opening. It reminds us that actors are more than their characters and that they too fight demons.Thanks again, Matty.
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Reviewed in the United States on January 24, 2024
I liked this book because it was a quick, easy read. The chapters were written as the late Matthew Perry sounded in cadence. I appreciated that it had an entire glimpse and first-hand perspective as to who he was and what he was dealing with as far as the layers of his addictions. Perry was raw about it. He told truths about abandonment and addiction that showed a direct correlation in his life. He shares quotes and thoughts that will leave you feeling validated and seen but also with compassion and an understanding of addiction as the disease it is today and what it was to him. Mr Perry captured what it was like to seek drugs, alcohol, or all of it, and to relapse multiple times. He shared what it was like to hide the addiction and to lose love over it as well. This book is quippy and honest, with a touch of reality and grit. It's inspiring and beautiful work that should be shared with those struggling or that have overcome addiction, or abandonment. It's splendidly written, and it is a shame we lost him. This book is a beautiful reminder of the late Matthew Perry's truths.
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Reviewed in the United States on November 25, 2023
There are some books you want to look through the reviews before you decide if you want to pick it up or not, then there are others you just want to read for yourself. Matthew's book was one that I wanted to read for myself. Though in looking through the reviews now that I have finished it, I realize either someone loves it or does not, there is no in-between it seems.

Before I write any more of my review - I want to point out that I am 99.9% certain I read a Kindle version that was edited to remove whatever there was about Keanu. So if someone is reading my review wondering why I don't mention it, I cannot comment on what I did not read. --- One more observation, from the reviews I did look through, it seems that most people who *listened* to the book disliked it more than those who *read* it. Seems listening to it make it more difficult to follow the already jumping timeline. Again, just my observation.

From the beginning Matthew tells us how this story is going to be written/told. How? you ask? "Groundhog Day" is his favorite movie, do I really need to say anything more? If you do not understand this reference, please take the time (1 hour and 40 minutes) to watch the 1993 classic movie with Bill Murray and Andie MacDowell. Then perhaps more things will make sense for you.

Thankfully I have never been an alcoholic or an addict, however, I have known several in my life. For them every day is groundhog day. Every morning the question of, "How will I get through today without a drink/pill/smoke/etc." makes every 24 hours the same. Matthew shows that in spades with his repetition throughout his story. Many of the reviews I saw complained about the repetition; if they don't understand it, perhaps they should count themselves lucky not to. To have never known someone who lives every day like this; or to not be that person themselves.

Matthew's story didn't end all sunshine-and-rainbows with a happily every after. Not everyone's does. I appreciated the fact that he kept it real. That he kept it honest. That he shows his faults to us just as much as he shows us the goodness. Life isn't always polished and pretty no matter who you are or how much money you have. Matthew proves that. No matter how bad things seemed to be for him, Matthew always looked to his future, he always wanted to be there. Perhaps not always for the right reasons, but reasons that kept him moving forward nonetheless. There is something to be admired about that.

Interestingly, one of my favorite lines reads, "God looked down on me, just waiting it out. He's got all the time in the world. F*<k, he invented time." There is something raw and honest and scary and funny in those words that just made me stop reading and literally highlight it in my Kindle book. Follow that with another line I highlighted that reads, "It was an amazing moment and a terrible moment all at at the same time." Talk about defining life most days. Perhaps not Pulitzer winning writing, but powerful and truthful just the same.

I have to say my all-time favorite sentence is this one - "God is everywhere - you just have to clear your channel, or you'll miss it." Doesn't matter what version of God you believe in, that sentence has a profound truth to it. (That one got highlighted in pink) Not something I would have expected from Matthew. But I am grateful he wrote it.

I am easily giving this book all five stars for it's raw honesty, it's openness, it's imperfectness. Just like Matthew.

Yes, I finally read his story after his sudden death on October 28, 2023. As I'm writing this on November 24, 2023, his cause of death still has not been determined nor released. Which makes one last sentence stand out for me in a premonition kind of way as I wonder what COD will turn out to be... Matthew himself wrote, "I could have a cigarette right now, have a heart attack, and if no one was around to call 911, I was a goner." Well, he was home alone, and he did try to call 911 himself, but he was unable to save himself this time. Oh, Matthew.

I wonder if you have finally found peace and all the deep, full Love you have always desired. Thank You for leaving a light on for us with your story. I pray it helps more people so that you may continue helping people even after you've gone on ahead of us in death.
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Reviewed in the United States on March 17, 2024
Rating: 4/5 Stars

Pros:
"Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing" offers a deeply personal and touching exploration of the author's life journey. The memoir is beautifully written, with raw honesty and vulnerability that pulls you into the author's world from the very first page. One of the strongest aspects of this memoir is its ability to capture the complexities of relationships - from the highs of friendship to the depths of heartbreak. The author's storytelling is compelling and immersive, making it easy to empathize with their experiences.

Cons:
While the memoir is captivating overall, there were moments where the pacing felt slightly uneven. Some sections delved into intricate details that may not resonate equally with all readers, potentially slowing down the narrative flow. Additionally, a bit more context or background information in certain chapters could have provided a clearer understanding of the author's motivations and decisions.

Conclusion:
With its heartfelt storytelling and profound insights, this is a memoir that leaves a lasting impression. While not without its flaws, it offers a deeply moving and relatable exploration of the human experience. I would highly recommend it to anyone looking for a compelling and introspective read.
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Reviewed in the United States on April 10, 2024
This is Matthew Perry through and through. His memoir is honest, yet humorous, and is honestly a little sad.

It's sad to see what he went through, and all his attempts to get sober that would last only so long before he relapsed again. It's sad to see that chase he always had for that "something" that would make him feel good or even just okay with his life, no matter if it was drugs, alcohol, or just love and attention.

But it's nice to see his humor with everything as well. As I read I could see Chandler Bing, could hear him in my head, and could see that smirk of his.

The pictures at the end made me smile to see his life with his family and friends and the fun he did have.
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Reviewed in the United States on March 16, 2024
This book was life-changing in that it added to my perspective for people who are chemically addicted. His honesty was stark and welcome. I can’t recommend it for children ONLY because he uses the “f” word a lot and does heartily espouse premarital sex—but for adults, this book is an absolute gift to humanity. I truly believe he survived his colon-bursting episode and lived an extra two years precisely because God wanted to give him a chance to write this book and help save our society from the awful plague of drug use. Way to go, MP. Thank you for this gift.
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5.0 out of 5 stars A story to know.
Reviewed in Canada on April 30, 2024
I purchased this book before Matthew passed away. I purchased it and set it aside until the news broke about Matthew dying. It’s a very deep subject telling a very sad story…but it’s done in an entertaining way. Matthew is quite humorous in his story and it’s worth reading if you have ever dealt with anyone fighting addiction or not.
Brenda Sakura
5.0 out of 5 stars Interesante
Reviewed in Mexico on March 8, 2024
Realmente uno no sabe lo que los demás están pasando. Puedes ver que son muy divertidos pero cada uno tiene sus propios demonios internos. En este libro te ayuda a ver qué no estás solo en tu lucha
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jandira tedesco garcia
5.0 out of 5 stars Honesta
Reviewed in Brazil on March 1, 2024
Gostei bastante do livro, realmente olhando como espectador a vida dele parecia sóglamur.
No entanto eles são mais sucetíveis ao vicio do que uma pessoa comum.
Megi Lengu
5.0 out of 5 stars Definitely worth buying. 🫶🏻
Reviewed in Germany on April 10, 2024
I bought this book right after i finished watching Friends. (Yea, 2024 i know 🥲)
It really hits diferent when you read and rewatch the show again cz you can understand what Mathew was going through while making the whole world laugh for decades.
I dont want to write more cz i dont want to spoil it for you, but if you really liked him as an actor, definitely should order the book.
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Megi Lengu
5.0 out of 5 stars Definitely worth buying. 🫶🏻
Reviewed in Germany on April 10, 2024
I bought this book right after i finished watching Friends. (Yea, 2024 i know 🥲)
It really hits diferent when you read and rewatch the show again cz you can understand what Mathew was going through while making the whole world laugh for decades.
I dont want to write more cz i dont want to spoil it for you, but if you really liked him as an actor, definitely should order the book.
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Sara Mastrantuono
5.0 out of 5 stars UN VIAGGIO DOLCE AMARO NELLA VITA DI MATTY
Reviewed in Italy on April 6, 2024
Che dire? Un libro che fa riflettere in tutto e per tutto, che permette di conoscere la vita difficile di un uomo meraviglioso.